• Facebook
  • Instagram
  • Pinterest
  • Twitter
  • Skip to primary navigation
  • Skip to main content
  • Skip to primary sidebar
  • Skip to footer

The Search for Imperfection | If I Can Do It, You Can Do It

It doesn't have to be perfect, the joy is in the imperfection

  • About
    • About Jennifer
    • Media Kit
    • Disclosure & Privacy Policy
    • Contact
  • Food & Drink
    • Recipes
    • Meal Plans
    • Drinks
    • Party Food
    • My Guest Post Recipes
  • Parenting
    • Pregnancy & Babies
    • Toddlers & Elementary
    • Feeding Your Littles
    • Working Parents
    • 10 Minutes (or Less) Hair Tutorials for Girls
  • Homemaking
    • Crafts & DIY
    • Party Planning
    • Money
    • Scentsy
  • Living
    • Random Musings
    • Semi-Green Living
    • Getting Outside
    • Holiday and Gift Guides
  • All Posts
  • TSFI Shop
This post may contain affiliate links for your convenience, which means at no additional cost to you, I may earn a comission if you click through and make a purchase. Thank you!

The Best and Worst of Why I Nursed – What No One Tells You About Breastfeeding

March 2, 2016 by Jennifer 1 Comment

Nursing is one of the most controversial decisions you can make as a new parent. The research alone can consume you and make you feel like you’re deciding the fate of your child’s entire future. Hardcore “breast is best” advocates lay the guilt on thick. They often make it sound like anything BUT breast is practically poison.

I have news for you… Your child’s success in this world does not depend on your boobs. Think of all the successful people out there. Think of your friends whom you adore, are kind, funny, intelligent, and everything a good human being should be. Do you think they were ALL breastfed? Probably not.

What about when you come across someone you admire, or aspire to be like. What kind of questions do you ask them in order to find out how they’ve accomplished what they have? I guarantee it never even occurs to you to ask “Hey, did your mom nurse you when you were a baby? Is that how you were able to [insert major achievement]?” (Or at least it’s not your very first question. If it is, you may want to start with something more like “Hey, what did you study in college?” instead.)

Case in point, my husband was not nursed and I think he’s pretty damn amazing, intelligent, hot, funny, an exceptional father, and all around everything a good person should be.

The Best and Worst of Why I Nursed

Best and Worst of Why I Nursed

All that being said, I nursed both of my kids, and the thought of nursing a baby is probably the only thing in this entire world that could get me to have my tubes untied. Don’t get me wrong, I love those kids more than life itself. But if I’m being completely honest, the idea of nursing again played a big part in me wanting a second.

When I decided to breastfeed with my first, it wasn’t solely for the baby’s health benefits you read about. I didn’t even know that it’s the best postpartum diet plan out there. I mostly wanted to do it because I’m stubborn.

That’s right, I’m stubborn. And if I decide I’m going to nurse my baby, there’s very little you could do or say to change my mind. Mother Nature sure didn’t seem to be on my side when my oldest was born. In all the research I’d done, I somehow missed these key breastfeeding secrets, and had trouble right from the get-go:

The Bad

We’ll start with what was difficult. I couldn’t get her to latch. When she did figure it out she latched on like a vampire. This was more painful than childbirth (since they have yet to come out with a nipple epidural). I’m not proud, but I did yell the “f” bomb on more than one occasion. Luckily it was not her first word.

I had cracked, bleeding nipples, got mastitis, found a lump in my left breast, got a biopsy (everything was ok) which caused my production on that side to plummet, and that’s all before I went back to work and encountered a new set of problems. Sound magical yet?

THEN, when I did go back to work, I had to figure out where and when to squeeze my pumping sessions in. I was a sales rep so was on the road all day and didn’t have an office where I could pump. It didn’t take long for me to find every parking lot in the Salt Lake Valley that had a shaded, semi-private spot where I could relieve my engorged breasts—discretely under my nursing cover, of course. I had to keep back up shirts in my car for when I leaked, and had to ask myself every morning if I was wearing a bra.

At this point, you may be wondering why anyone would want to put themselves through this if they weren’t opposed to formula. One word. Bonding. Now I’m sure you can form the same bond with your baby by formula feeding, I’ve seen it, but something happened to me in those moments of nursing that I can’t describe.

Nursing Outside

The Good

I’m not a super touchy-feely gushy person, but after all the “f” bombs and tubes of nipple cream were out of the way, I felt a connection to this little being that made all the bad in the world disappear.

I would never tell my husband this, but I cherished those feedings in the middle of the night when everything was so quiet and peaceful.

In that moment the baby had one need, and I was the only one that could fulfill it. We were in a bubble. I had no idea it would be such an emotional experience!

I’m not out to make anyone feel guilty if breastfeeding ends up not being their bag. My goal is simply to fill you in on some of the more difficult aspects that I wish someone had told me. And maybe if you’re more mentally prepared, it could help the process go a little smoother.

I know I didn’t have HALF the issues with my second as I did with my first. I learned the value of nipple cream early on, discovered how to relax, didn’t yell any obscenities, and cried only when I thought about it being the last time I would ever experience such oneness with another human being.

The best and worst of nursing, including what no one tells you.

Related

Filed Under: Feeding Your Littles, Parenting, Pregnancy & Babies Tagged With: baby, breastfeeding, nurse, nursing

Previous Post: « Balsamic Roasted Chicken and Veggies
Next Post: 3 Keys to Nursing Success – Game Changing Tips to Help You Nurse Your Baby »

Reader Interactions

Comments

  1. David Brink says

    March 7, 2016 at 6:55 am

    You are an amazing woman, wife,mother, daughter, friend, business professional!
    Reply

Leave a Reply Cancel reply

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *

This site uses Akismet to reduce spam. Learn how your comment data is processed.

Primary Sidebar

Search

Welcome, I'm Jen! I'm here to offer realistic (sometimes semi-green) parenting, eating, and homemaking tips so that you can embrace life and let go of perfection. Because if I can do it, you can do it! Get to know more of Jen →

Free Appetizer eCookbook!

Easy Entertaining Appetizers eCookbook

Don’t Miss Out!

Bonus Access to Our Printables Library

Recent Posts

Lemon Pepper Arugula and Cashew Pesto

Lemon Pepper Arugula and Cashew Pesto

Orange Pale Ale Manhattan - Beer Cocktail

Orange Pale Ale Manhattan – Beer Cocktail

12 Awesome Mother's Day Gift Ideas

12 Mother’s Day Gift Ideas That She Will Actually Love

The Best Mini Crab Cake Recipe

The Best Mini Crab Cake Recipe Ever

Favorite Posts

Why We Stopped Eating Family Dinner at the Table

Why We Stopped Eating Family Dinner at the Table

10 Things That Make Me a Terrible Mom

10 Things I’ve Done That Should Get Me Fired as a Parent – How to Be a Bad Mom

Best Alternative to Plastic Kids Dishes

The Best Alternative to Plastic Kids Dishes

Animal Shelter Donation Party

How to Throw an Animal Shelter Donation Birthday Party

Bourbon Manhattan Sour

Bourbon Manhattan Sour – A Modern Twist on Two Classic Cocktails

Easy Homemade DIY Lip Balm

The Only DIY Lip Balm Recipe You’ll Ever Need

Like Us On Facebook!

Like Us On Facebook!
Love Scentsy

Footer

Categories

Shop Scentsy

Cute Scentsy Mix and Match Warmers

More Ways to Follow!

Subscribe to Blog via Email

Enter your email address to receive notifications of new posts by email.

Welcome, I'm Jen! I'm here to offer realistic (sometimes semi-green) parenting, eating, and homemaking tips so that you can embrace life and let go of perfection. Because if I can do it, you can do it! Get to know more of Jen →

We are a participant in the Amazon Services LLC Associates Program, an affiliate advertising program designed to provide a means for us to earn fees by linking to Amazon.com and affiliated sites.

Copyright © 2021 · by Shay Bocks · Built on the Genesis Framework · Powered by WordPress